Friday, 19 August 2016



7 SENTENCES A SUCCESSFUL PERSON NEVER SAYS
                                                                                                                                               
By Josh Felber


Success is not something that can be accomplished overnight. It takes a lot of hard work, time and sheer dedication.
Every successful leader, entrepreneur or idealist has had their own unique journey as they strove for what they believed in and proved to society that anyone can break free from the chains they think are holding them back. 
Although each of them had different a different path, their destination was the same: success.
There are many factors which tie these successful individuals together, one of them being how they grew and matured along the journey. Steve Siebold, author of “How Rich People Think,” interviewed more than a thousand millionaires over three decades to learn what led them to their success and wealth.
The answer was quite simple: Steve learned that it did not matter where they were born, or even to whom — what really made these millionaires stand out was their mentality, the drive to reach their goals while letting nothing hold them back. This mindset led these individuals to wealth.
Here are seven sentences you’ll never hear a successful person say because they contradict that unstoppable attitude.

1. “I hate my job”
See also: “I hate this company,” “My boss is an idiot”
One highly-admired quality in successful people is that they are never too opinionated about their job or workplace, irrespective of what they might be doing at any point in life. Even if they are in a situation which is uncomfortable or are surrounded with negative energy, they always avoid statements like the above. These negative elements do nothing but slow you down in your journey to achieve success. Instead of insulting a person, the job or the company, they seek to resolve issue with proper facts, tactics and complete neutrality.

2. “That’s not fair”
See also: “But I deserve it more”
Did your rival receive an award, appraisal, or recognition and you got nothing, while you’re twice as dedicated and productive? A mistake successful people never make is ranting and raving about the injustices of life. Unfairness is something you have to get used to. Success is not gifted to you — you have to work to earn it, and in the midst of doing that you need to show you deserve it.
Instead of whining and complaining, the secret of being able to move on is to be proactive about such issues and not reactive. Causing a scene will only affect you negatively. If you think you were much more deserving, prove it by making a strong case and presenting it.

3. “That’s not how it’s done here”
See also: “Because it has always been done this way”
Innovation is a key characteristic of successful people, whichever fields they might be in. You have to learn to embrace new things and not be afraid of doing away with conventions. Nobody ever achieved anything great without trying something new.
Take Steve Jobs for instance: Mr. Jobs was very passionate about innovation and such passion led to amazing creations like the iPhone and the iPad, devices that changed the world. Jobs once said, “Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower.”
Darlene Price, president of Well Said, Inc., shared some advice with Business Insider about keeping an open mind and innovating at work. “Even if you disagree with someone’s idea, say instead, ‘Wow, that’s an interesting idea. How would that work?'” Price said. “Or, ‘That’s a different approach. Let’s discuss the pros and cons.'” Don’t be obstinate and afraid to try new things — that’s not the way success is achieved!

4. “That’s not my job”
See also: “Not my problem,” “I don’t get paid enough”
There is one big rule which successful individuals follow: If you are truly successful, you will help others succeed as well. An example of this can be taken from Mr. Warren Buffett, who said, “Someone’s sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago.”
Becoming a team player is what helps you get closer to success, and if you are not a team player success will never come to you. You might be rich, you might be successful, but the hard work and dedication of your employees and members of your business or organization are the real reason behind your success and your reputation.

5. “That’s impossible”
See also: “That can’t be done,” “I can’t do this”
Successful people know that boundaries and limits are only creations of the mind, and we ourselves give birth to such restrictions. Such statements needlessly hold you back from achieving greatness. Achievers do not complain about barriers or hurdles; instead they find a way around obstacles and use their creativity to challenge them.
Negative words like “can’t,” “won’t,” and “impossible” are never heard from the mouths of successful individuals. They know complaining will not help them, but actually doing something about the issue at hand will.

6. “I could have”
See also: “I should have,” “I might have been able to”
Regret is the worst feeling an individual can face, to keep revisiting times when they “could have” done something, the situation was out of hand or else they “would have,” now realizing that they “should have.” Successful individuals do not give themselves the opportunity to regret. This is due to two reasons: either they take the opportunity, no matter the odds, and turn the tables around; or they move on and find another opportunity that awaits. Regret is never going to serve anyone.

7. “I have no choice”
See also: “I have no other options,” “I’ve done all I can”
There are always options and opportunities at hand, and successful people know how to create their own way to these opportunities. Price pointed out, “To say we have no choice in the matter implies that we perceive ourselves as a victim, that we are less powerful than our environment.”


Source: GoBankingRates.com








12 Passive-Aggressive Text Phrases I Use That Are Destroying My Business

I've been told that I'm a little bit passive-aggressive. I didn't really get it till I started evaluating some of the simple-yet-destructive words I was saying. If you’ve encountered an act of passive aggression then you already know that it’s never the best way to resolve a conflict. And, if you're like me and been dishing it out, you also know that it's never the best way to resolve conflicts.
Passive-aggressive behavior is frustrating for both parties involved. It's unproductive and it makes you and others become less trusted in the workplace. After allowing my behavior to destroy a few relationships (that I didn't even realize was happening) I decided to figure out what I was doing and fix it immediately.
Here’s 12 common passive-aggressive text phrases and the true meaning behind them so that next time you encounter them, you'll know how to proceed a little better and in a more productive manner.

1. “Fine.”

My best friend recently brought this phrase to my attention. As my friend pointed out, whenever someone tells you that everything is "fine," that always means the opposite. It turns out this is pretty spot-on. Signe Whitson L.S.W. states in Psychology Today that the “passive aggressive person uses phrases like 'Fine’ in order to express anger indirectly and to shut down direct, emotionally honest communication.”

2. “No worries.”

Actually, you do have worries. Christine Schoenwald elaborates in Thought Catalog that “This translates to ‘I’m saying no worries but what I actually mean is screw you. I won’t say what I’m really feeling but will hold it against you until I explode.’”

3. “If you really want to.”

This may appear to be accommodating at first, but don’t be fooled. Whenever you tell someone, or someone tell you this phrase, you’re actually being noncommittal. It may sound like you’re going along with the plan, but inside, you’re not all that thrilled - but you just don’t know how to communicate those feelings, or you may thing that the other person will be mad.

4. “Thanks in advance.”

I'm horrible at this one and something I'm working on each day. Another phrase that may appear innocent at first. But, it pretty much means that you're expecting them to do whatever it is you're asking and they pretty much have to do it. This damages your relationship with this person.

5. “I was surprised/confused/curious about…”

When you hear or see this text you can be certain that it’s used to disguise criticism, as opposed to be being upfront. Jennifer Winter recalls on The Muse the time she had a colleague who used phrases like this as “an attempt to soften the blow.” Winter, however, “took it as a stab in the back because my boss was in attendance—and that feeling led me to promptly ignore her feedback.”

6. “I’m not mad.”

This one destroyed my relationship with my ex-wife. I never expressed how I truly felt. I've now learned to voice my opinions openly and be honest with my spouse. It's the same in the workplace. Yes. This person is livid. They’re just not being honest with you. I find that whenever I use this phrase I don't feel like I can be honest with the person. Learn to express how you feel.

7. “Whatever.”

I once had a disagreement with a friend that took place over text messaging. When they dropped the ‘whatever’ response I almost went through the roof. It was infuriating because I knew that they did care, they just didn’t want to keep that discussion going. Yes this person is mad, and now you are too. It's not helping.

8. “So…”

How can a two-letter word pack such a punch? Because most of the time it’s followed by text that is either awkward or it shows their agitation For example, “So... are we going to the movies tonight?” or “So... did you get my email?” The person on the other side is clearly agitated that you haven’t responded yet. And that’s a problem when you honestly haven’t had a chance to get back to them.
Or, it could be the beginning of an uncomfortable conversation, they just don’t know how to come out and say it. When someone says, "So..." to me, and then that weird pause, I have the almost irresistible desire to say, "so....what?" And make an exit. This can even be expressed in the content marketing you put up on your website.

9. “Just wondering…”

You see this text when someone is asking you for an unreasonable request, like “Just wondering if you were in the city tomorrow and could pick-up my brother for the train station?” Even if you were in the city, the train station could be nowhere close to where you’re at. In other words, this person knows that they shouldn’t be asking you for this favor, but they’re going to ask anyway. Do keep in mind that some shy people may use this question when asking if you want to go somewhere, or do something with them. Like, "I was just wondering if you would like to go to the movies with me?"

10. “I was only joking.”

Sarcasm is on the most common manifestations of passive aggressiveness. If this person makes a comment that upsets you and this is what follows, then you know it wasn't a joke at all. They meant what they said, but are backing away to cover-up their true feelings. This is an especially damaging phrase when used in a relationship or (often) in front of other people, as a put-down.

11. “Hope it’s worth it.”

This phrase should be rather obvious. The person you’re communicating with clearly doesn’t want you to do something, but is well-aware that you’re going to do so anyway. Instead of expressing their concern, they’ll leave with this passive aggressive text and stew until it become a major issue. This person will also beg you to tell them about it later so they can use the phrase again on you. It's a shaming phrase.

12. “Your thoughts?”

In most cases I find this a pretty harmless phrase. Asking someone their thoughts on dinner, etc. However, this phrase can even be used a way to tell someone that they screwed up. "Your behavior has been subpar at work, your thoughts?" or "I wasn't that happy with how this assignment turned out, your thoughts?" Both of these are passive aggressive and damage your relationship with the person.

Your thoughts... on this article? What other phrases do you find yourself or others using that are passive aggressive? I'm not mad, just tell me.


This article was originally written by John Rampton, in the Entrepreneur